We are asking our people, particularly Teens, to go into the Teen Chat Rooms to discuss issues and try to get other teens to visit our www.lifecall.org website. 

In doing so, we realize that some teens may become vulnerable to the tricks and deceptions of devious adults who might be pretending to be teens in the chat rooms and trying to do harm to the teens there. Please do not under any circumstances let your identity and contact information be known to those you will be chatting with. 

Above all else, we want you to be safe and protected during your work for the preborn and their mothers in the chat rooms so PLEASE BE CAREFUL.

The news is full of stories of adults who have used the internet for their own selfish gains and desires.  Please pray for God's guidance as you go in to the Teen Chat rooms and be as the scriptures say, "Wise as a serpent and gentle as a dove."

Primary Purpose: The Key reason to visit a Teen Chatroom is to find a young woman who might be pregnant and in need of your help and to educate the young people in the Chatroom .

Goals:

If we find a teen in a chatroom who is pregnant or knows someone who is pregnant, we should offer help through our friendship, our guidance including our knowledge of Crisis Pregnancy Centers and Birthrights in the area of the teen and Maternity homes or Shelters where a teen could live to have her baby.


1. Educate teens. Remember "peer pressure". Young people listen to their friends. How often have we heard young people saying, "I would never have an abortion but I think its up to everyone to choose what they want."
   
   
2. Promote Chastity. Many teens want to hear the Chastity message and others need to hear it.
   
   
3. Always mention God, His love for us and the need to pray for His guidance. Bring the young people in the Chatroom closer to God, His Word, Prayer, Church and any other positive spiritual influence possible. The Teen Chatrooms are a means of God guiding these young people through your faith and knowledge.

OK -- So You Decide to Go into A Teen Chatroom -- What to Do!

Your Screen Name: There is much to be said for selecting the "right" screen name. Your Screen Name tells the very first thing about you the teen will see. So be careful in selecting a good name. Any name with the word teen, life, God, Jesus, Friend might be nice. If the name you select is taken, all you have to do is add a number behind it until you find you can use the name. Examples: ForJesus, TeenFriend, Jim4God, TeenEar....each of these can have numbers added to them and they might be just what you want to convey in your Screen Name. Also you can enter a profile following the AOL instructions. This can help you ... or you might want to enter second Screen Name with no profile. Experience can be the best teacher in a Teen Chatroom. Just keep trying and see what works best for you.

How To Get To A Teen Chatroom: When you get to the "Welcome" page of AOL you will find the "People Connection" Icon. Click on that Icon and the you will come to the General Chat Page. Click on the "Find A Chat" section and you will come to a list of chat areas. Double Click on the work "Life" in the column on the left and the column of the right will change to show many chatrooms available. As you page down you will see the Names of the Chatrooms on the right and the number of people in each chatroom on the left. Keep paging down until you begin to see the Teen Chatrooms. Click on any Teen Chatroom. If it is filled you will be shown a screen that allows you to go to a similiar Teen Chatroom. Just click on YES and you will be in a Teen Chatroom.

What to First Do: The best advise is to first just watch and see what the teens are saying. If you see some teens using profanity, you can place them of Ignore by double clicking on their names as the appear in the box on the right. When a screen appears with the name of the person you wish to ignore on it just fill in the IGNORE button and click on the "x" in the upper right. You might want to do that for anyone who is also Scrolling or playing a game. Scrolling means that they are drawing something on the screen or they are writing the sme things over and over again. Just place them on IGNORE.

When you feel a bit comfortable, just type in "Hi Room" and see if anyone says "Hi" back.

It is good to say "Hi" to anyone new to the room. Be friendly and courteous at all times. If you see that someone says something that interests you ... feel free to comment. You might like to start by chatting about a recent movie or news event ... anything a teen might be interested in. Hopefully you will make a friend or two.

Often after you visit a chatroom, you may find that you have been Emailed by someone that you did not even speak to that has a problem. In this next section, please find an example of several Emails from a young possibly pregnant woman and Lifecall.

 Subj: want to talk to u

Date: 98-01-05 01:17:55 EST

From: Anna434

To: Lifecall

i have talked to u before but it was in a chat room..... u wouldn't remember me........ anyway u told me about lifecall and i visited it..... if u wouldn't mind i have some things i would like to talk to u about....... i really don't know who to tell and i assume u r a christian...... and it's easier to talk to someone this way than face to face............

i will be 19 on feb 2. i have a son that will be 3 on jan 20. i am a freshmen pursuing a degree in psychology. me and the father are still together but he isn't financially able to help pay for his son. i live with my parents and they have been paying for my son since i have started school. i only work on the weekends and it's just enough money to pay for bills. i am trying to save to buy my own car. i use my dads now. maybe it would help if i would start explaining things..... my parents are christians and my father is the pastor of our church.

of course there is a lot of tension and stress in my family now because of my choice and having premarital sex and getting pregnant at 15. i was on the auxiliary corps in high school and had to give it up after i became pregnant. that's when things started going downhill in school. i finally graduated from a christian home school because there were too many problems for me to graduated from my public school. well here's the thing.... me and my fiance have been together for 4 yrs. we are no where ready to get married because of our financial problems. that causes a lot of arguements between us because it also makes it difficult for us to see each other. i have been looking for better guys but havent' found one yet. besides, i really love him and would love for us to be together with our son and i believe he wants the same..... just he hasn't grown up yet and taken on his responsibilities as a father and fiance.

well recently we got together and did something stupid. i won't go into detail because that's not important now. i am afraid that i may be pregnant again.... i am so humiliated. we have always been careful since i had our son, but this night something went wrong. i have always had an irregular period and have been taking birth control to correct it and to prevent pregnancy. well i stopped it due to complications with sickness with it and the fact that i still didn't always have a period. i would go to a doctor , but i don't want my parents to know in case i am pregnant and i don't have the cash. i haven't had a period since october and i usually only skip one month but three at the most. right now i don't even have the money to afford a pregnancy test.

there is a great possibility that i may be pregnant. i don't have any signs yet but it's just the fact that i am scared to death and more afraid to have it confirmed because that's when a decision has to be made. i am totally against abortions, but at times like this i am sure u understand why someone would consider it. my parents have made it very clear that i will be kicked out. i am too ashamed to let them know if it turns out that i am. so i can only figure on somehow trying to marry the daddy or an abortion. the thought of killing it makes me so sad and sick but i am backed into a corner. we are not able to get married and we are not ready to support a child. adoption is out of the question for now. the fact is if i am pregnant i don't have a home unless it's possible for us to get married and i just don't see how. i don't want to give up going to school... i have worked too hard to make it this far. and i don't want to neglect my son because of my mistake.

i would have taken the morning after pill if i had had the money. i do love my parents but there are enough problems between us without letting them know that i have possibly let them down again. it had been so long since we had seen each other and one thing led to another. there is no excuse for what we did, i am just trying to say that it's not something that happens a lot between us and if it does our protection works. i know that God can help me, but i don't know. i don't know your beliefs on this but i am a backslider. i really have doubts now that i ever was saved. maybe it's the devil. well i haven't prayed in a long time because i just can't seem to get it right. i don't feel like i am getting through or being sincere enough. i have even prayed for sincerity and it doesn't work. i also am afraid to ask him for anything for fear of sinning again .

i know that i am a sinner and i would like it different , but that still isn't going to change whether or not i am pregnant. if u don't mind i would like to just hear what u have to say. if we could get married we would. actually we would have been married a long time ago but there are too many things in the way. i would really appreciate it if u would pray for us and respond to me. maybe it would be better if someone else prayed....... isn't that what you are supposed to do? ask others to pray for you? my fiance doesn't go to church and i wish we could both be christians, but for now we are not.

 thank you,

Anna

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Subj: Hi .. I happy to talk to you!

Date: 98-01-05 13:43:15 EST

From: Lifecall

To: Anna434

 Hi Anna,

I read and re-read your Email.

WOW!

Thanks for thinking of me.

Yes I remember chatting with you in the Chatroom and I am so glad you visited our lifecall website.

Please know that I am already praying for you. "Dear Lord, Please help my friend, Anna. She REALLY needs you now ... she especially needs your Holy Spirit to guide and calm her and help her through the stress she is now going through."

Anna, please pray along with me... the same prayer.

Don't worry about being a "Sinner" ... we all are sinners.

Remember Jesus said He came to cure the sick.. the Healthy have no need for a Physician. God longs to hear our paryers. What would a day be like if your little 3 year old child decided..or forgot to speak to you?

Simply Awful! Right!!! So remember you are God's child .. no matter what is going on in your life. He loves you.

Anyway... first thing we must do is find out if you are pregnant. Can I send you a home pregnancy test?

I would gladly do that if you could send me an address...maybe even to a friend's house...so your parents won't find out.

In the past 16 years I have counseled and housed many mothers in difficult positions. Some were on their second pregnancy without being married. Some were teens .. some were married. NEVER>>> NEVER>>> did I ever have a mother who stayed with me say, "I wished I had not had this baby." But, Anna, I have had many, many women who chose abortion tell how much they wished they had not done it.. how much they wished they had had their baby.

Anna,,,, . I will send this now and Email you.... again real soon.

Your Sister in Christ Jesus,

Kathy

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Subj: Re: Hi .. I happy to talk to you!

Date: 98-01-06 00:10:09 EST

From: Anna434

To: Lifecall

can i ask u what the mothers preg with their second did with their other child while they stayed with u?

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Dear Anna,

Any girls that have had a baby already either bring their first child with them to stay at our shelter...or hae the first child stay with their parents or another relative until the new baby is born.

Anna....understand... that God loves you...no matter what you have done.

You are His child and He really loves you always and forever.

And your parents.. no matter what happens .. they too will always love you.

Sure parents get disappointed in us from time to time and they even say things.. like they will kick us out... and well... sometimes they have a right to be mad, but believe me they always are your parents. .... and in time they will forgive jsut about any thing. You are a mother now... and think about it... wouldn't you forgive your child ... especially if the child were sorry and asking for forgiveness?

So Anna...have a little faith...have a little hope and know this God is right there beside you ready to get you through this and all the other difficulties you will have in this life.

Any chance you have the funds for a home pregnancy test ... you know the kind you can buy at a drug store? Any chance you have a Birthright Center near you...they do pregnancy tests for free. Again... if you give me an address I will send you a home pregnancy test for free.

If you are pregnant .... I promise to help...either way... please know I am praying for you and I have asked my friends to pray for you too.

I hope to hear from you soon.

Your Friend in Christ Jesus,

Kathy DiFiore

PS. Attached is a recent photo of our two newest baby boys. Aren't they special. I am soooooo glad their moms chose life for them.

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One Volunteer's Personal Experience and Advice

Date: 98-02-14 16:16:46 EST

From: Suchlove

To: Lifecall

Lifecall, I have many thoughts on my experiences in the Teen Chat Rooms.

These chatrooms are filled with teenagers who are quite hungry for truth, but they are very caught up in the world. When I first go into a chatroom I say hello, and then try to get a feel for what they are discussing.

For example, I was in a chatroom and I noticed a particular girl who seems angry at men. I started a conversation with her, then she sent me an IM. As it turns out, she had a baby at 16 and the father of the baby left her. I was then able to lead her into a conversation about God's love, and she was quite receptive.

Sometimes, when I don't notice much conversation, I'll ask probing questions like: What do you think about abstinence, or Does anyone believe in God? Etc...

Usually someone will end up sending an IM and we can talk.. they seem to ask a lot of questions, and they tend to be open to spiritual things.

I had a 18 yaer old guy send me an IM based on my questions, he put me on his Buddy List and talks with me quite often. He was hungry for the gospel and wants to grow in his relationship with God.

I would reccomend that anyone who does this do it in God's love!! The best way to save a baby( I think) is by loving them like Christ loves us. Be for real. Open yourself up ( ie. Share personal experiences) Ask questions. Be direct.

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Chastity Related Conversations

We have a website called www.chastitycall.org which can come in handy at times. Once in a while a teen will ask advice and counsel about dating and their feelings about the opposite sex. These are times for you to help prevent a possible by teaching Chastity.

These types of conversations will usually start in a chatroom but end in Instant Messages.

Sometimes mean-spirited individuals will send you what is know as an IM Bomb. This means that they have in their computer a software package that will allow them to send you one instant message after another. This will lock you out of the Teen Chat Room and the only way you can get back in is to note the exact number of the Teen Chatroom ...then get out of the room ... shut down your computer .... and go into the room again ... maybe under a new Screen Name. Hopefully this will not happen often because it takes time and can be a real deteriment to making progress.

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Two are Better than One 

If at all possible have another prolife person in the chatroom with you. It will help the flow of the conversation. Remember Jesus said where two or three are gathered in His Name there He will be in the midst of them. Know that God's Holy Spirit will always be available to help guide your Teen Chatroom Conversations.

There can be as many as 3,000 teens on line chatting at any one time. They are in all the chatrooms, but mostly the Teen Chatrooms. Keep trying to get the prolife message out to the teens that need to hear your message. Know that when you are in any chatroom many people are just watching and learning. They may not be "chatting" but they are observing. And often the Lord will use you to teach them.

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Please Email us ( ) any questions you may have or tell us about any positive or even negative experiences you may have in a teen chatroom. We want to learn from you too!

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